Husbands, Show Us Christ!

Recently, Angela and I have been thinking about the relationship of marriage and Christian witness. Books by Doug Wilson, Gary Thomas and Paul Tripp have been tremendous in helping us to connect these dots. The following quote from Doug Wilson is worth noting.

“Every marriage, everywhere in the world, is a picture of Christ and the church. Because of sin and rebellion, many of these pictures are slanderous lies concerning Christ. But a husband can never stop talking about Christ and the church. If he is obedient to God, he is preaching the truth; if he does not love his wife, he is speaking apostasy and lies—but he is always talking. If he deserts his wife, he is saying that this is the way Christ deserts His bride—a lie. If he is harsh with his wife and strikes her, he is saying that Christ is harsh with the church—another lie. If he sleeps with another woman, he is an adulterer, and a blasphemer as well. How could Christ love someone other than His own Bride? It is astonishing how, for a few moments of pleasure, faithless men can bring themselves to slander the faithfulness of Christ in such a way.”1


1 Douglas Wilson, Reforming Marriage (Moscow, ID: Canon Press, 1995), 25.

About the author

Chris Castaldo (PhD, London School of Theology) is the lead pastor at New Covenant Church in Naperville, Illinois. He is the author of Talking with Catholics about the Gospel and coauthor of The Unfinished Reformation.


  1. The Apostle Paul’s letter to the church in Ephesus has much to say on this topic (Ephesians 5:21-33). These verses have had a great impact on Shelly’s and my marriage. So much wisdom, yet so hard to do in a fallen world. As Paul says, “This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one.”

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